How To Say No And Mean It

If you find yourself cringing at the thought of having to say no, or if you are doing too much and feeling stressed because of all the things you’ve agreed to do for others, it is time to learn how to say no…and mean it.

Saying No

Saying no to someone is not rude. It is not unkind, and should not come from a place of emotion. If you do not have the time to volunteer with an activity, or if you recently had lap band surgery and a friend wants you to help move their furniture, no is the only appropriate answer to a request for your help.

Ways To Say No

The easiest way to say no is, “No, thank you” but there are other variations. If you cannot volunteer for something but will be free later in the month you can say, “I don’t have time to help with anything else until the end of the month. Keep me in mind if something comes up then, ok?” There are many ways to say no and be clear about what you are able to do for others without feeling bad about turning down the request.

When Someone Won’t Take No For An Answer

Sometimes saying no once isn’t enough. When a person does not take no for an answer the first time and proceeds to give a reason or argument for why no should not be an answer, stand firm. There doesn’t have to be an increase in anxiety or anger, just repeat, “I’m not going to be able to do that for you.” Adding qualifiers like, “I’m sorry” or “I feel so bad, but…” will just give the other person reason to think if they keep pushing, eventually you will give in and say yes. Stop the argument and convincing before it starts by being polite but firm, leaving no room for confusion.